The Fourth Element

The Fourth Element: Love
Whenever the word “Brekup” rankle my ears I visualize the scene of Movie “Life in Metro” where inquisitive Shilpa Shetty ask lovelorned Shiney Ahuja “Did she left you” He replies “No”. Then in a very obvious tone she asks “So you left her”. He again replies “No”. Shilpa get a bit confused and then Shiney replies quietly “Love left us”. So, is it true that with the time Love fades off? Or is it us who obfuscate love with infatuation, affection, Illusion, crush, flirting and seduction? Whenever I see estranged lovers I ask this question to myself, Is there something wrong with Love (Pyar ke Side effects)? Then I hark back and see those Septuagenarians and Octogenarians who are at the autumn of their life but still holding their hands quite firmly. They might not regurgitate ‘Love u’ and ‘Miss u’ as frequently as Gen Y but the gleam of their eyes says it all. We always say that time has changed and with that meaning of love as well. But forget that while pointing one finger towards time, rest four questions us. So it seems that it is us who have changed the meaning of love with time.
There is a very basic principle that each and every action has equal and opposite reaction. But while loving someone we forget that it’s not just about loving someone desperately but also being loved equally. It is quite natural that when you start falling in love, either of the partners feels the heat of the relationship more, but as the relation grows up and romance reaches the zenith; the passion should be at par. When this doesn’t happen bitterness intrudes a relation. In amateur stage we ignore these minor precursors of heated arguments and think that with time these voids would fill up. We compromise our choices to fulfill the desire of other half, pass through intense pain to see him or her smiling. But for how long someone will live an obsessed life. So, when other half expects the same in return then the non fulfillment of dreams leads to rift between them. Friends, everyone loves to get loved. It is really a priceless gift that someone loves you madly and then it is your responsibility to respect their love. You might belittle him/her for every small mistake but forget all those fiasco when s(he) stood rock steady to appreciate you. You didn’t pick his (her) call just because you were upset but s(he) pray every second “Oh god Just for few seconds keep my breath at stake but not my talktime”. So just empathize the other half and feel the mystique aura of love.
Another very basic element which is getting effervescent in a relation is commitment. When we starts seeing each other we intend to make our love story an eternal one but as times passes and tides come across it turns ephemeral. The bitter terms like Opportunism and Selfishness are sugar coated as Career orientation and Practicality of life and given to bemuse the other. The couples who intend to be two lives and one soul degrade to two individual with altered priorities and egos. But why we forget the proverb “Calm Sea doesn’t make good sailors”. Why we forget that in the testing time of our relation we need to stand abreast to the other half. Confusion and misunderstanding do take place in relation but take a positive note that minor arguments are opportunities to bolster your bond of love. No one at this earth is archetypal, everyone has his or her grey side but that is not a basis to shed them. When you loved someone you loved them for what S(he) is and what S(he) is not.
Finally giving a tab to my fingers I would insist just before saying those harsh words to someone, think once that there is someone who has been loving you till eternity, for whom your love is panacea, someone who eat a humble pie to everyone’s cacophony just to see your forehead without any flab. You might have committed him or her with Dutch courage but for them your words are the world. There is someone who has rejected all the affluence of H1 Visa, MNC Job and 7 figure salary just to stay with u in a two room flat because the moments spent with u are far more precious than these materialistic things. So friends just get some time form your hectic work schedule and feel the gravity of fourth Basic element of our life that is “Love”.